Does Someone Put You Down?

Does someone you love and trust put you down? It's confusing, isn't it? I don't know your circumstances, but this is probably verbal abuse and it's wrong. There are many of us out there who have been where you are. Many of us are still there. How do you get out of the nightmare? The advice I've been given is: as quickly as possible. Easier said than done, though.

A good friend of mine has observed that I have a tendancy to take life as it comes -- a good thing in some ways. But that depends upon what you are taking, doesn't it? I do believe that life will unfold whether we do any particular thing or not. But it might be that if we are being verbally abused and we are letting life unfold, we are in victim mode.

One of the things we can do for ourselves is to Act on the World. By this I mean that we can take one active step that we might not otherwise take. I am trying to do this now. I try to do little things, like if I call someone and ask for a call back, I set a time deadline (sometimes I share this deadline, sometimes I don't). If the person doesn't return my call, I call them again. This might seem like a little thing, but it's learning to find your voice, one baby step at a time.

If you feel put down or taken advantage of by someone you care for, please think about joining with someone who can support you in acting on this situation. I started this blog to help women find their voices. If you are being abused, it might be a source of support for you.